Bigsteppykitty - Lynx ‼️

yes!! it’s about practice tbh one of my friends is hyperfeminine and transmasc and i can just look at him and call him a he. it just comes natural if you let urself seperate pronouns from gender/gender presentation :>

easiest explanation i have for pronouns that "don't make sense" (neopronouns, he/him lesbians, etc) is that a person's pronouns are basically just a nickname we use for that person so we don't have to constantly say their name when talking about them. a person's pronouns also tend to have an association tied to them, which is usually an indication of their gender. that said, much like how your nickname can mean whatever you want it to mean, your pronouns can mean whatever you want them to mean. and, with enough practice, if you can remember that someone has a nickname, you can also probably remember their pronouns too (no matter what they are)

OH MY GODDD

Giant red-winged grasshoppers: adults and striped nymphs, Tropidacris cristata, Romaleidae (Lubbers)

Found throughout Mexico, Central, and South America. Coloration varies between adults while nymphs are primarily black and yellow striped with orange in earlier instars.

Photo 1 by carmelo_lopez, 2 by indianacristo, 3 by origamilevi, 4 by tshahan, 5 by ignacio_a_rodriguez, 6 by joanapereira, 7 by aztekium, 8 by sergiorios, and 9-10 by bridgitte1234

time for this ridiculous thing again

(Armadillidae/“Cubaris” sp. Rubber Ducky)

I as a non passing trans man think the same way transphobic ppl write trans women.

"oh he's cute.. he'd hate me if he knew I was really a man"

"I feel so guilty using the woman's bathroom, because Im secretly a man"

"I worry I'll never be enough of a real man that woman sometimes feels like the only option for me"

"oh this person can never ever find out that I'm a man"

Idk I just noticed this and I think it's kinda funny

Gender has always been a shaky and loose ever changing category. People asking for a strict definition of a man or woman are always going to be unsatisfied with any answer you give them because their definition of man or woman is the only one they want to be true.

Usually men have beards. But not always. Usually women have breasts. But not always. Often in many cultures “men” are the ones who do the fighting. But not always. There are cultures where women fight as well or even form their own warrior or soldier groups. There are men who can’t grow beards. There are women without breasts.

Usually men have a penis. But not always. Usually women have a labia. But not always. Such as it is for every other characteristic associated with one gender or another. And the necessity of one characteristic or another for being considered a man or woman varies greatly between time, culture, and place. Not to mention the vast variety in presentation in physical primary and secondary sex characteristics.

It’s not a thing that can have a solid definition with no exceptions. There are trends in what we perceive in the cultural moment as being necessities for being this or that gender but those general groups of characteristics always have exceptions to them and are prone to change with evolving cultural attitudes from within a society and influence from other outside cultures.

And generally the characteristics that people associate being a “good man” or “good woman” with overlap a significant amount. Like if you ask someone to just sit down and list things there will be something like a 90% overlap or more. Characteristics like caring for others, resilience, being a good listener, intelligence, etc. tend to be valued in people of any gender. The line between being a good man and a good woman is often more aesthetic than any concrete set of actions or physical characteristics.

Why am I a non binary man? There’s a thousand small things I could point to in order to explain it. But none of those reasons fit into a neat one sentence definition. But if you ask a cisgender man why he’s a man like really actually make him explain it, he will likely have a similar level of complexity to his answer if he really thinks about it. If you really grill cisgender people about their own opinions on this stuff they are often surprised to find how many thoughts they actually have about gender and how much more complicated those opinions are than they thought.

Transgender, intersex, queer, and gender nonconforming people are often forced to actually look at gender in a way that cishet people aren’t. It’s easier to see all of the tiny puzzle pieces when none of the ones you were assigned fit in your life and you’ve got to find your own. Gender isn’t one solid mass. It’s a mosaic made out of a lot of tiny tiles that can be swapped out or removed and still generally look like something you recognize.

What’s a woman? Well, that’s a question with a million answers but if you step back you can get a general idea. Kind of like with pointillism. If you stand too close to it and try to pick out one bit that makes a woman a woman you won’t see much. Just a singular splotch of paint. But if you back up a ways you’ll see something there you recognize. And what you see will likely still be up to your own interpretation.