Aro Culture Is Being Both Touch Starved And Touch Averse So You End Up Just Extremely Cold For Reasons

Part of being aromantic, at least for me, is always being the third wheel. Feeling awkward and left out whenever my friends leave to go on a date or whatever and I have no one to hang out with. I'm not saying that I want to intrude on someone's date or whatever, they deserve to have time to themselves. I get that. I just wish I didn't feel so alone when everyone around me has someone special to them and I don't.

And it's not like I want to be in a partnered relationship, either. I actually feel pretty squicked about the concept of being the recipient of romantic feelings, and I feel completely neutral about having a qpr (aside from the knowledge that I don't feel any sort of attraction and don't particularly want to have to make personal decisions only with the help of someone else).

I guess it just makes me feel a little like I'm not anyone's most loved, if that makes any sense. No one loves me more than anyone else. I'm nobody's best friend, nobody's dearest individual. And partly that's freeing, because I don't have to figure anyone else into my future, but it's also sad, too, because I'm nobody's favorite and I'll always have to take a backseat to other people.

Ugh, idk. I shouldn't be complaining. I have great friends who I love dearly and who care about me. I just have to constantly be aware that I'm never going to be the first one someone thinks of when they think of home.

do i want to do that because i really want to do it, or do i just want to change my life drastically?

I searched up eczema on tumblr because I wanted to know if someone was like me out there and holy shit after like five minutes of scrolling I've gotten so much new info no one bothered to tell me?

eczema (esp chronic and stuff) is considered a disability? I come under that category? no one bothered to tell me?

I don't need to feel bad and mean abt feeling angry when someone tells me not to scratch? It genuinely pisses off a lot of people?

Water irritates your skin? you're supposed to be greasy?

you need coolness and darkness and it's a sort of universal thing?

You can have triggers other than food?

Those marks on my skin that my fam freaks out about are hyperpigmentation and I'm not a weirdo for having them?

I'm not alone. People are like me out there. Even if we aren't heard we exist.

Aromantic Sunset. Just don’t ask me why the sky is green and we won’t have a problem.

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Sorry, it’s constant.

I love that the dinosaurs being portrayed as animals and not part of a 24/7 fight club, but the only thing I still want out of Prehistoric Planet is to see a hadrosaur beat the shit out of a theropod. I'm tired of them being docile carnivore fodder, I guarantee you they contained the same wrath of God as every extant giant prey animal does.

Aro culture is learning not to show your excitement over making new friends because everyone will say you have a crush.

In case anyone is having a bad night:

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*tucks you in with fuzzy blanket* *pats your head*

You’ll be okay, friend <3

y’all do understand that dismantling amatonormativity and arophobia isn’t just... “haha you’re valid”, right

it’s young aromantics not being told by their peers that they’re weird because they don’t have a crush, and them not intentionally avoiding making friends in fear of being excluded from conversations

it’s aromantics being able to see themselves in mainstream media in many diverse ways, and alloromantics respecting canon aromantic identities instead of crying over “shipping”, and aromanticism finally being included in queer discussions, sex ed, etc.

it’s romance repulsed kids and teens not (sometimes traumatically) forcing themselves to like something they never want because they’ve been taught, intentionally or not, that if they don’t have romance, they will live a miserable life

it’s aromantics being able to come out and people actually understanding what it means and not asking invasive questions they wouldn’t ask an allocishet person or even other queers

it’s non-partnering aromantics not having severe anxiety about their future financial states because they fear that they will not be able to pay their bills without a married partner’s money to help out

it’s allosexual aromantics being able to come out and not fear sexual harassment, rape, assault, etc. because others take their orientation as “asking for it” or as automatic consent to sexual acts

it’s religious aromantics not feeling like they’ve failed their religion by not wanting a traditional idea of marriage, sex, romance, etc. as their religion may present it, and them not being rejected by their family and peers as a result

it’s aromantics, especially women, being able to reject romantic advances or break up with someone without fear of being seen as an inherently bad person/villain or being harassed/assaulted/insulted because people can’t take no for an answer

it’s loveless aromantics not being shunned and left out of conversations regarding love, and aplatonic aromantics not being antagonized for not feeling affection for friends, and aromantics not always feeling like they have to prove themselves to alloromantics somehow

it’s lovequeer and queerplatonic/alterous aromantics not being told that their love or relationships are queerbaiting, giving off mixed signals, or that it’s never strong enough or can never be life-changing the way romance can

it’s so much more than just “aromantics are valid uwu”, the same way that dismantling other anti-queerness is so much more than “gays and trans are valid uwu”.

That ace/aro feel when you're doing on online quiz and then inevitable Sex/Romance Question™ pops up like whelp guess i'll never know what kind of french cheese i am