Name Change - Blog Posts

hell yeah, a fellow name collector :3

Mhm! The only reason I took a single name is because of society🙄 but there's so many others! I love names, Im like a faerie I gotta have names

azrael is a cool name ngl.

Thank you! It's what my dad wanted to name me when I was born, it just took 18 years for him to get his wish lol. He chose it because of the Batman character, my ma vetoed it because of the cat in the Smurfs, and I chose it because of the angel of death

Shoutout to @robotmechagirl for naming me. I genuinely would've been nameless for like months longer without her. Also, shoutout to my coworker and best friend who has been dealing with me for 6 months of work and 4 months of being on HRT she has the patience of a saint sometimes, I swear. I appreciate yall(and everyone else whos had to put up with me throughout my transition).

I uh dont really know how to conclude this soo, mwah!(/p)

Changing your name is both the best and worst thing. Like, on one hand, I'll finally be separated from my birth gender but on the other hand, I'm making a decision I will be living with for the rest of my life. Also! Deciding on a last name is an agonizing process, and I can't find a good one;-;

hey everyone! i'm back to tumblr (again)

i know i've been really inactive and that's because i have school and a lot of homework, also i lost motivation and some things happened in my life and i needed time to process everything

also, i know i didn't say anything about the hogwarts champion, but i'll restart writing as soon as the winter holiday starts.

sorry i've been so inactive but i hope i can post more :)

As you can see I changed my name from Silverfrost to Willow. I wanted a non-WC name bc idk I just like it better. But that doesn’t mean I won’t be posting Warrior cat stuff :)

Changing 'Nek0ru' to 'Zuxver' because it both connects me to my other socials and is more unique :p

Local Post Office

Registered property ie. vehicles, real estate, boats, etc.

Investments, ie 401k, stocks, etc.

things to update after a legal name change!

Social security card

Driver’s license

Passport

Birth certificate

Employer HR

Bank account

Credit card company

Car insurance

Health insurance

Utilities

Cell phone account

Voter registration

Your school

Professional organizations (for nursing, bar, teaching, etc.)

Doctor’s office & other health specialists

TV & internet

Paypal

*Please add to this list if you can think of anything else!!!

Preferred Name

The other day a friends parent introduced me to some of her friends by my preferred name. It made me so happy in the moment I could barely mutter a greeting because she was the first adult in my life who knew me before by my birth name and made the intentional change to my preferred name. It got me thinking about preferred names and this came to my mind as a message to those who don’t call others by their preferred names:

Imagine you work with a person. Not in close proximity but you know of each other. Imagine one of your mutual coworkers as a joke tells this person that your preferred name is Bucket.

This person takes that information and continues to refer to you as Bucket even correcting other coworkers into call you by that name. You don’t know where the source is so you can’t stop it. And this continues for years.

Then finally you two get moved and start working together regularly. You finally get the chance to correct this person on what your really name is.

Their response: “but I’ve always known you as Bucket calling you anything else would be so hard. So I’ll just call you Bucket if that’s okay”

This continues. They call you Bucket every time you speak. They introduce you to new people as Bucket they call you Bucket in front of large groups of people and people who know your real name who get confused.

They don’t stop and when you correct them their response is: “sorry but it’s just hard to change and remember”

Wouldn’t you be frustrated? Wouldn’t you be annoyed? Wouldn’t you be uncomfortable?

Respect people. Respect their names. Don’t make excuses. It’s not hard to understand.

Name Change

Guess what I did today!

Sources:

Name: SigningSavvy, Lifeprint, ASLDeafined

Change: SigningSavvy, Lifeprint, ASLDeafined

[Image ID: Name and Change in American Sign Language. Both signs start pink and end blue.

Name is two hands in H handshape palms facing signer. Dominant hand taps base hand at the fingers.

Change is both hands in X handshape crossed at the wrists. The hands rotate around each other to cross with the other arm in front.

End ID]

A cascade of name changes

When I changed my legal name, I was required to provide public notice of the change. There are legal news services that exist for this exact purpose - you pay them a small fee; they put the notice on their website.

(At least in my county, you can request the requirement be waived; there’s a good argument to be made that it exposes one’s status as a transgender individual and that this invites unnecessary risk in today’s fraught climate. I myself did not pursue this option however.)

The website for the legal news service in my area is, uh... Well, ‘archaic’ is probably the most charitable interpretation. Sometimes I want to share the notice with people, but there’s no search function for non-subscribers - you just have to scroll through the notices until you get to the right one.

(Really, I need to bookmark it or take a screenshot or something!)

Today I was doing exactly that - trying to find my notice again - and I was struck by how many other items between mine and present day were clearly transgender in nature (i.e. from a masculine to feminine name or vice versa). I would estimate a good third or so met this criteria.

It fills a girl’s heart with warmth and hope to see so many people finding their true selves and living authentically!

Transition-focused

Sometimes I worry that I come across as overly focused on the subject of my transition.

“So what have you been up to?” “Oh, you know. [Transition stuff].”

In project management parlance, transitioning is a multi-year project with multiple tasks, all of which have their own sub-tasks, and so on. Resources must be acquired; unforeseeable issues spontaneously arise and must be resolved.

I would not necessarily call this timeconsuming or overwhelming (although transitioning can be these things at times); but it’s pervasive. It touches every part of my life and requires constant care and attention.

A simple example: I wanted to change my legal name. In America, this generally means going to the county probate court and getting an order to that effect.

Every county has its own process and paperwork (although the vast majority at least try to adhere to some kind of nationally-distributed model process). All together, there were five forms.

I also needed to provide notarized copies of various personal records, so I had to get those.

Once everything was submitted, I had to wait for an invoice from the local legal news publisher; and then pay them to release a statement recording the name change.

I had to talk to the court and the publisher multiple times for input on what to do; to check up on the status of my case (”Oh, sorry - the person that mails out the confirmation was on vacation for two weeks”); and so on.

Eventually the court order was created, and I could pick up my copy of this incredibly important legal document.

Having done all this...

...I now get to reach out to the dozens and dozens of organizations that keep track of my legal identity and inform them that it has, in fact, changed.

...And some of them have their own requirements for updating their records; which necessitates addressing certain organizations in a certain order (BMV; Social Security; employer)...

All of this, all of this merely to change my name. One of a multitude of tasks.

Overall, this has been one of the most rewarding processes of my life; I would repeat it in a heartbeat. If however I do come across as eternally preoccupied with my transition, it’s because - at least for now - it constantly effects me, every day and in all ways (physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, legally) and I have no choice but to dedicate the necessary brainpower to managing these things.

My name isn't:

Gate(Faker name/Gayfriend Real name of him)

Gayla(by grey)

Babe(by Jimmy)

Dad(by bota)

Sweetieheart(by mother)

Darling(by FanGirl)

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My slyte name:

Forwy(Second oc name)

Dear friend(by @myfishei)

Adopted(by Nicole/Jean my sister)

Sis(by @nicolm-fnf-minus-space)

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Anyone's who would called me like anything scene was name of mind