Neurodivergent Culture - Blog Posts
nd culture is not knowing if your lack of social skills is why nobody has ever been romantically interested in you or if you’re just unattractive
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that feeling when they make ur anxiety seem like "jst a little shyness" on purpose<<<<<<<<<<<
This always irritated me, too, and what's worse is that, "I planned to do it" has never been accepted as a good reason for me to be upset, since, "it's getting done anyway"; I'm not upset about it being done, I'm upset that you didn't even warn me before disregarding my plan, and it's only going to get worse because I can't properly explain it anymore than I can contain my frustration at this point.
when your mom presses the button on your laundry, and you planned to do it yourself. but no one will understand why you're so upset. your doubly angry because you know she knew it would trigger you and she still did it nonetheless. it was just convenient for her. (oh and she put her laundry in with it too).
no one will ever understand why I am so angry. (cause I planned to do it). no one around me at least.
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FACTS! Say it louder for the NT's in the back!!!
ND culture is that the "taking stuff literally" thing goes in both directions.
No, allistics, I'm NOT exaggerating, saying things between the lines, being metaphorical, emphatic, or sarcastic, or anything like that. I'm being LITERAL. So when I say something, take me seriously and at face value, damnit!!
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*inhales deeply* ..... oof. I felt this one in the pit of my stomach.
nd culture is not having anything to say and then one of your special interests comes up naturally and you think "talking about this has gotta be better than the silence right?" and next thing you know your 40 min into an info dump and the other person is barely paying attention.
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Me, often called a Vulcan by my family: 👀... 🖖🙄
Autism culture is identifying with autistic coded characters, but as soon as someone who is not neurodivergent says "Hey you remind me of *insert autistic coded character*" getting very uncomfortable
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I just woke up, man... but no, Tumblr chose to get personal today. 😅 Well, at least I'm fully awake now.
ND culture is spending your whole childhood being told you're "too sensitive" and "need to toughen up." Then realizing as an adult that it was basically just "traumatize the ND kid until they stop melting down." Bonus points if the adults in your life still feel justified in how they treated you because you "turned out OK" despite needing years of therapy.
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nd culture is avoiding dishes. not entirely because there's a lot, but because of what's on them.
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ND culture is apologizing for everything, even things out of control, because you feel you'll never be good enough otherwise.
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Autistic culture is wanting to immediately wash your hands after you have to deal with a bad texture
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ND culture is identifying with your born gender (Female) but needing to be paid to be "pretty" or dress up like I will not do it for free to make people more comfortable like I'm sorry it's society which is wrong
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autistic culture is being confused on why bodies are so sexualized bc i mean breasts are basically built-in stim toys. juggle them thangs. it's not sexual it's FUN!!!
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Things I do while conversing with my ND friends
Staring at trees or other background objects while explaining stuff
Special interest rants!!!
Stopping to smell candles/flowers/tea/etc.
Brief moments of eye contact (that are somehow less uncomfortably intimate than eye contact with NTs) before looking at other things again
Stretches/hand flapping/other stims
Speaking really quickly because I'm excited about something
Speaking with lots of pauses because I'm having trouble finding the right words
Making the decision to be interested in whatever topics they bring up
Not worrying about boring them because I know that they'll make themselves interested in my topics, too
"What's the history of that word/grammar form?" *everything on pause while we research and discuss*
"Another thing about *topic discussed an hour ago*"
Night falls but we forget that we're sitting in the dark because facial expressions aren't necessary to the conversation
Relating what they say back to myself but not worrying about seeming self-centered because they understand that's how I empathize
Talking for 10 hours straight but not being tired because we don't have to mask
Learning new facts every time I talk to them
Arabesques
I was diagnosed as autistic (technically Asperger’s but that’s completely out of date now) and recently got diagnosed with adhd. I never wanted to step on the toes of the adhd community either.
nd culture is being diagnosed as adhd but then later wondering if you're also autistic but being afraid to self diagnose because there's so much overlap and you don't wanna step on the toes of the autistic community
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