Trans Kids - Blog Posts
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so in the last couple of months two families i know have had children come out as trans, and iâve offered to help the families find resources. aside from not always remember what i wish i would have known when i came out - iâm finding a lot of resources about parenting trans children that are written by cis people, or published by cis-led organizations.
does anyone have recommendations on parenting resources
1. written by trans people
2. published by trans-led orgs
TSER is there obviously, but iâm looking for resources for parents rather than teachers? and PFLAG & Gender Spectrum both seem pretty cis-lead.
This is why itâs so important for parents to support their trans kids.
This kid didnât deserve this, they deserved so much better than this. And people online or in real life who encourage this kind of behavior I personally wish go to hell as someone part of the LGBTQ+ community
I really hope this reaches more people, I'm only reposting this information from Instagram, the least that I can do. (Update: I changed their upbringing as it appears to have been listed wrong) Wiki page
When I just saw this information I couldn't stop crying thinking about it, and now my heart aches. They were the same age as me, I know for a fact like any other teen they dreamt of their future, who they would want to become, what to achieve, create, wondering if they meet those in the future they can call friends, wondeting if it'll get better when they grow up, maybe wished to leave that terrible place or maybe wanted to stay. How could anyone let this happen, why were they discharged from hospital so easily? And the school, we all know why. I hate to think about how, even with all the progress made, these things still happen.
"murdered schoolgirl Brianna Ghey on February 16, 2023. Candlelit vigils are being held across the UK this week for Brianna Ghey, 16, who was stabbed at Linear Park in Culcheth, Cheshire last Saturday. Brianna was a transgender girl and police are now investigating her killing as a hate crime. A boy and girl, both 15, have been charged with her murder"
An article that explains trans hate crime murders as on 2023
I hate everyone who have ever committed such vile hate crimes, I wish them in prison and hell. But i would never go down to their level. But I also blame the government, the school, and even those bigoted online accounts that teach their followers hate. In this case LibsOfTikTok, who targeted the teacher of this school, who supports lgbtq+, so they had to leave their position. It must have been the push for this to happen. I think their tiktok account has been thankfully deleten. But i have no idea about Twitter or any other. Please check and mass report them if it still exists. (Link to Instagram reel that this information is from)
ADDITION, PLEASE MASS REPORT THESE ACCOUNTS
"B-but not conforming to gender norms is hard for kids to understand đ đ"
Have you every worked with kids before??? Be so fr. I volunteer at summer camps and stuff and I look pretty androgynous, I have had kids ask me if I was a boy or girl. Back then (last summer) I wasnt really comfortable in my trans-identity so I said both, they did give a shit. I told them that, they would correct other kids on it. Like they thought I used they/them WITHOUT me telling them that and would correct other kids in that. the kids doing this were like 5 btw
so yeah if its that hard for you just say 5 year olds know more then you
(@numinoussssss told me I should post about this btw bc I tell him everythign)
Rest in Power, Nex Benedict
A 16 year old kid who loved nature and looking after their cat Zeus. Who enjoyed reading, watching the Walking Dead, and playing Ark and Minecraft. They loved to cook and would often make up their own recipes. They did well in school, being a straight-A student. Rest in power a teen who was human and had interests and ambitions and challenges and friendships. A trans youth who was brutally murdered just for being trans, when that was only a fragment of who they were as a person.
Nex Benedict, Jacob Williamson, Brianna Ghey, and other trans youth like them were real people with real lives. They deserved better, longer, happier lives. They deserved to grow up and not fear for their lives. They deserve to be remembered as who they were, not just as another trans kid who was killed, as people with families and normal human lives.
ssomedays im just really harshly reminded about how many trans kids take their lives before they graduate high school and realize just how lucky i am to have made it this far.
i lost a trans friend a year ago and while seeing videos on my tiktok fyp talking about trans youth one of them mentioned another trans kid who took her life years ago and it reminded me of what it was like when that happened and then i thought back to my own friend i lost. and its just so terrifying knowing that im lucky to be one of the trans kids to survive my middle/highschool years.
it was a really big realization the other day that i had in which i turned to my sister and said holy shit im an elder trans person now, ive survived. and thats just really sad, knowing that when i was like 14/15 and first starting my transition i looked up to 18/19/20 year olds who made it and were transitioning and now im in that position of having saw these 14/15 year old kids looking at me and how well i pass and how well i know myself and how i survived and feeling like they could make it. the amount of kids i have had tell me that just seeing me being me around the school helped them to feel safe is insane to me. like these kids deserve to just be kids. i deserved to just be a kid. but we dont get to be kids. we dont get to live out our high school years by being high schoolers, we live them out in fear. in fear of our peers, in fear of our families, in fear of ourselves. and thats just terrible. this shouldnt be how things are.
i shouldnt have had to fight for the right to just use any of the bathrooms at my school. i shouldnt have had to go into our counseling office and report slurs and threats being verbally thrown at me in the hall. i shouldnt have had to sit there in my car before the last football game a year ago crying because my best friend was dead.
There is so much more I could say about this, but there is not enough room. Remember to check with reality rather than believing conspiracy theories promoted, supported, and funded by white nationalist hate groups.
Missouri is proposing 20% of the nationâs anti-trans legislation this session. Gender-affirming care for young folks is on the edge of being criminalized (so much love to trans friends in states where that has already happened).
Please keep up with the anti-trans legislation in your state and combat it. There are lives at stake.
Transphobes do not touch this post.
Image ID: a 10-image cartoon comic featuring Joey, a boy with short hair.
Image 1: Joey, upset, gesticulates towards an open laptop. Text reads: The reality of St. Louis trans kids. Last week, a former (non-medical) employee of Washington Universityâs Pediatric Transgender Center was featured in a viral article about how the clinic was ârushingâ kids into medical care and âmutilatingâ us. Every single thing she said was a lie, but the media loves it. Footnote reads: I wouldnât give any more attention to this, but it is immediately endangering the lives of trans people. Missouri has launched a state investigation and is actively attempting to criminalize gender-affirming care based on conspiracy theories.
Image 2: Joey points to a map of the United States where Missouri is singled out, and a map of Missouri where St. Louis is indicated with a star. The text reads: The Transgender Center, located in St. Louis, Missouri, has been the target of hateful attacks from the far-right state legislature for years. It is part of Washington University Hospital, a branch of a prestigious private university.
Image 3: A younger Joey injects his T shot in his leg while someone takes a photo. Text reads: I can tell you that everything in the article is false because I received care at the Transgender Center beginning at 16 years old. My medical transition has brought me nothing but joy. What a gift it is to be trans!
Image 4: A younger Joey sits on a couch and stims with a tangle fidget toy. Text reads: No one is ârushedâ. I sat on many waitlists, had to have 6 months of specialized gender therapy and a diagnosis of gender dysphoria before even being referred to the Center, and I was denied as ânot ready enoughâ by an endocrinologist the first time I finally got an appointment. Footnote reads: If youâre curious about what it looks like to be a trans kid, I did another piece on that! Check out tinyurl.com/transkidscomictumblr.
Image 5: A colorful map of the United States shows how many states have a Negative Gender Identity Policy Tally and how many states have criminalized gender affirming care. Joey holds a credit card. Text reads: St. Louisâ Pediatric Transgender Center is the only one in the region, meaning the waitlists are extremely long. Plus, no one in the only industrialized country without free healthcare is getting medical care for fun. Many American trans folks have to fundraise for our care.
Image 6: Joey, distressed, sits on a couch while talking on the phone. The person on the other end says: âThatâs me!â Text reads: This former employee spoke about specific cases, and patients have been able to identify themselves. She shared our private medical info and called us horrifying.
Image 7: This is split into two panels. In the first, Joey holds up a box of condoms and a packet of birth control pills. Texts reads: She especially hated trans men such as myself, saying that trans ideology was destroying âgirlsâ. She lamented about hormones making us âsterileâ, which is a complete lie. We trans mascs have to actively prevent pregnancy. In panel two stands a doctor. Text reads: Every time I had an appointment at the Center, doctors reminded me: Remember: testosterone is not a contraceptive! Footnote reads: The wonderful Erin Reed wrote a breakdown debunking all the lies in the article. See tinyurl.com/erinreedmissouri.
Image 8: Joey, masked, sits at a circular table with his brother, an unmasked boy with fluffy short hair. Joeyâs brother is showing him his phone. Text reads: Major newspapers continue to platform these complete lies because they bring in engagement and money. The Washington Post tracked down my little brotherâs personal cell phone number to try to get in contact with our mom â the president of an organization supporting trans kids in Missouri. Freaky, right?
Image 9: Joey, looking disgusted, leans against a door frame while talking on a cell phone. Text reads: But no one wants to talk with me, the adult who medically transitioned at this clinic as a minor and has not âdesistedâ in six years. The Washington Post reporter, who didnât know anything about trans people, talked with me for 20 minutes and used a sentence of mine in an article about âboth sides of the debateâ. She didnât mention that this former employee is being legally represented by a recognized anti-LGBT hate group, nor that all of her claims are unsupported by reality or science.
Image 10: Joey looks angry and gesticulates. Beside the drawing are two photos of Joey, one of him happy in front of a trans flag, and the other of him drawing up testosterone to take his first T shot. Text reads: There is no debate. There are trans people, and there are people who want us dead. There is truth and there are conspiracy theories. Where is my viral article in a major paper?
Published Feb 16, 2023. End ID.